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But that will be too delimiting. The things that you found in this book weren’t totally derived from my personal experiences, but from the wisdom and experiences of countless friends, both men and women, whom I had the opportunity of sharing journey stories with.
When you browse through the bookstores, and now on the Net, you will find an almost endless assortment of book and resources dealing with the same theme: men and love. Most are written by psychologists and love gurus, each one espousing a different way of handling love, men and relationships. Although I am a ”devout“ reader of these books myself, I take these ”words of wisdom“ with a grain of salt. And that is exactly how I wish you would take my words.
I am aware that the book sounds prescriptive. But as with any prescription, you may choose to take or not to take it if you feel it is not right for you. The journey to finding good love is a very personal one. There are no proven ”tricks of the trade“. What may work for one may be totally disastrous for another.
As you go through your journey, you may find that there are more hurts than joys, that there are more disappointments than triumphs. Do not give up. This is all part of the journey. If it seems that despite all the time and effort, good love is not in the horizon, do not despair. At the end of the day, the most important thing is that you keep on learning about yourself.
Bear in mind the paradox of finding love:
While you are psychologically, physically and socially preparing yourself, you should also let go. This is a combination of preparation and positive anticipation. Letting go is surrendering yourself to the outcome – that the love of your life will materialize soon. It means trusting that the Universe has heard what you yearn for and it shall be delivered to you , in the form that you desire at a time that is best for you. It means that you are never anxious or doubtful why the love of your love has not showed up at your doorstep, or why you have been meeting people and yet you haven’t meet anyone remotely suitable. It means being relaxed, totally trusting, confident and ready that the love you want and you deserve is on its way.
Have a wonderful journey.
Coralyn Hizola
coralyn@hellogoodlove.com
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