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Don’ts in flirting
You have just read the secrets to successful flirting. Now it’s time to look at the things you should never do, if you wish to be a pro at this fun, harmless game.
Don’t flirt with his friends
This is not the time to make your man feel jealous or insecure. Flirt with one person at a time. This way, your target knows he is your special someone, at least for that moment.
Don’t whine or complain
Whiners are never attractive; more so on the first encounter. If the food, drinks, surroundings, people are not to your liking, keep your views to yourself.
Don’t cling
No matter how much you like a person, resist the urge to monopolize his attention. If he asks you to dance, be the first to end it after one or two tracks. If you are with a group of friends, let your friends share in the conversation even if you are obviously his object of attention.
Don’t fidget
Remember, flirting is supposed to be fun and playful. Relax and don’t show your nervousness in any way. Don’t be self-conscious. Keep your playful tone all the time.
Don’t ask for his number…unless
No matter what others say it is still not advisable to ask for a man’s number if he did not ask for yours. The only time it is acceptable to ask for someone’s number is when your conversation has turned business-like and you see an obvious opportunity that you or your companies can do business together. But, if it is purely on a romantic tone, don’t attempt it. A man who is interested enough in you will and should take the initiative.
Don’t play too hard to get
Playing hard to get has it merits because it plays on a man’s pursuit instincts. But as with everything, there is a time for it and the first encounter isn’t definitely it. If you like the man and he asks for your number, give it. But don’t volunteer to give your number. You lose your mystery and it lessens your desirability.
Don’t embarrass him
Your flirting partner brings with him his own anxieties. A man is more nervous and eager to please when he is attracted to you. He may commit some blunders and say the wrong things at times. Whether or not you like him, do not embarrass him. Let him have his dignity. If he is trying to tell a story and his facts are wrong, don’t point out his mistake rudely. Someone in your group will probably the honors; don’t be the villain in his eyes.
Don’t smoke, unless...
Most men, even smokers, don’t like women who smoke. However, if you are a serious smoker and would like to attract only those with similar ”smoking interests“, you may do so. Of course, keep in mind that you may be alienating some desirable non-smokers or even smokers.
Don’t use pick up lines
This advice is not only for men, but for over-eager ladies too. If you must start a conversation, use something that is natural and not contrived. In the gym, for example, ask your target how to adjust the machines. In a computer store, ask him which section you should go to for a particular item.
Don’t depend on others to make it happen
Only you can make things happen for you. Some girls become over-dependent on a girlfriend or friends when they venture out. Practice becoming independent. Venture out alone. Eat in restaurants, go to the library, go to the coffee shop, have your car washed, go to the salon, attend classes alone. An unaccompanied woman is more approachable.
Don’t overwhelm him with too much information about you
When you meet someone you like, you normally tend to put your best foot forward. This is normal because you want to be liked and appreciated and you are seeking a follow-up. In the process, you may end up monopolizing the conversation. You may over volunteer information about yourself. Instead of impressing him, you may end up overwhelming him. Let the other person ask you questions and then respond accordingly. If you are highly successful in your career or your studies, don’t initiate talking about it.
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