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The Right Choice
You think you have just met your Good Man. After seeing him several times, you feel a sense of compatibility between you and him. You feel everything is just about right.
Hold it! Rein in your raging hormones and smoldering passion. It is so easy to fall for someone whom we think is finally the one, only to end up with a time-waster.
Don’t waste your time! Mr. Wrongs on parade
Sometimes you don’t even have to go through a complex thought process to see that your prospective Mr. Right is actually Mr. Wrong in a mask. Mr. Wrong may appear eligible at first; he may even love you. But if you are looking for a long-term, loving, meaningful relationship, the last thing you need is a Mr. Wrong. If you are already dating one, wake up! No prize for guessing what you should do next.
Married Men
Should I even explain? Don’t even think about your married man getting a divorce. If he really wanted to, he should have already done so. Save yourself the troubles and get out while you still can.
Alcoholics, Drug Dependents and other Crazies
Don’t even think you or your love will change them. You won’t.
Philanderers
He is coming on to you while he is still in a relationship. You can’t expect him to be suddenly faithful to you when he can’t be faithful to her, can’t you?
Bachelors Forever
Most perpetual bachelors seem super eligible at first. He comes with almost everything – a magazine perfect house, pictures on the wall, photos of his smiling parents and siblings, dishes, silver, maybe even a cat or a dog. The only thing missing is a wife. You may think that it is you that he is just waiting for. Forget it! The Bachelor Forever cringes at the thought of having to share his home with a woman on a full-time basis. Sure, you can stay during weekends and holidays but don’t even think about bringing in your entire wardrobe, he will freak out. But how do you tell whether your prospect is a Bachelor Forever? Some clues: he is over 40 and has not lived with or ever considered marrying anyone, except his cat; he guards his freedom tightly; he does not expect exclusivity; he does not want children; he never mentions marriage.
Losers
Losers come in variety of forms and it is very difficult to discuss each category. But generally, a loser’s life is such a disaster you would not want to be associated with him. He is over 35 and has nothing to show for it. He can’t hold down jobs, he can’t hold relationships and everything else is to be blamed for his disaster except himself.
Youth and Beauty Connoisseurs
Nothing wrong with admiring beauty but if beauty is his main thing, chances are he can always trade you for a prettier version. Remember the term ”modelizers“? popularized in the Sex and the City? Keep away from these men, they certainly have some serious issues. Even if you are beautiful now, think how you will look in 20 to 30 years?
Ambivalent Men
Today, he wants a committed relationship, tomorrow he needs space. Then next week, he is ready for a commitment. Unless you are 15 years old and willing to waste at least 5 years of your life, you are better off with someone who knows what he wants.
Critics and Directors
These guys are not perfect themselves but they can be, and often are very critical. He criticizes everyone else, except you, in the beginning. Later, you, will especially get the brunt. Nothing you do or say is correct. You can always improve. In short, you are never appreciated for who you are. Some critics can also be directors. Aside from offering, ”valuable“ criticism, he can also tell you how you should dress, how you should put on make up, what food you should eat, how you should spend your weekends, who you should be friends with, etc. In other words, he directs your life.
Over-Possessive Men
Some women enjoy being with possessive men – they make them feel attractive and wanted. Occasional displays of jealousy can indeed be cute, and sometimes endearing. But over and constant possessiveness is a red flag. A man who insists you tell him where you are, who you are with, listens to your phone calls, snoops on your things, won’t let you have male friends can be very dangerous in the long-term. Excessive jealousy often leads to girlfriend/wife battery and is a leading cause of divorce.
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