|
How to attract a Good Man into your life
Before you start going to places where the singles congregate, you need to do some work on yourself. Here’s how to make yourself attractive to the man of your dreams.
Make a ”wish list“
Yes, make a list. Yes, as in a shopping list. Write down everything that you wish to find in a man. Rank your priorities, No. 1 should be most important. Don’t miss out on anything – include every detail that you want. This guide is for your eyes only, so you can be totally, outrageously honest.
When making your list, think about what is important to you in a man, or what you are most attracted to in a love relationship. See if your requirements for your ideal man are essential for a happy relationship. Does having big, dark eyes and broad shoulders important in order to make you happy? How about money? Would you be happy to date someone even if he is almost always penniless? Take your time. Tell yourself: This is what I want in a man. Then ask yourself: Is this requirement necessary for me to have a good, happy relationship?
 | |  |
 |
|
Recommended Reading:
How to be the Woman Men Adore and Never Want to Leave:
Learn how to Captivate A Man, Make Him Fall In Love With You And Give You The World! The ability to create magic with men is NOT really magic at all. It’s a skill which can be learned by any woman -- and that includes you!
Written by a Bob Grant, L.P.C.,Relationship Expert
| |
 |
 | |  |
To make sure you cover everything, categorize your wish list. For example, physical traits, social, financial, emotional, etc. Feel free to create your own categories. Keep your list where you can easily look at it: in your diary, PDA, wallet, PC. Look at your list every time you have the chance,
Now that you have completed your list, go over it a second time. Do you think the person you have described on your list would be interested in you? Would you have the opportunity to meet that kind of man? Are you aiming too high or too low? Do you think your ideal man would feel like you have anything in common?
Your list is by no means permanent: you can add, delete, edit as you see fit. The key is to constantly visit your list and visualize your ideal man materializing right before your eyes. Then see yourself with this man, enjoying each other’s company. Your imagination is your limit. If you want a committed relationship, imagine yourself being engaged or married to your dream man.
This method has worked for a number of people I know, including myself. Some experts believe that writing it down and putting your visualization powers to work will transmit a message to the Universe that you are expecting someone to come into your life.
Manifest in your own life the qualities that you want to attract
Look at your list, then look and assess yourself. Do you see the same qualities within you? Let’s say you want to meet someone who makes a minimum of $100,000 a year, travels a lot, has lots of friends, athletic, well read, etc. Do you think it would be possible to find that kind of man if you yourself can’t hold down a job, you have no friends, you do not exercise and you spend all your time watching TV? Would you be desirable to your ideal man?
Like tends to attract like. Try to become more like the one, which you like to attract. If you want someone who is financially sound, get your own finances in order. You want someone in great shape, get out and start your fitness program.
Act as if
How do you act when you are in love? Begin to act as if you already are. If you take special care when putting your make up when meeting your special man, start doing so. If you always want to look new to your man, buy new clothes, new undergarments, perfume. Arrange your furniture, put candles and flowers on your table, as if you are expecting someone special to come around. Arrange your bedroom to accommodate another person. Have an extra pillow beside you.
|
|
Trust and let go
This is where your child-like quality of complete trust will come in. While you are psychologically, physically and socially preparing yourself, you should also let go. This is a combination of preparation and positive anticipation.
|
Letting go is surrendering yourself to the outcome – that the love of your life will materialize soon. It means trusting that the Universe has heard what you wanted and it shall be delivered to you, with matching ribbons, at a time that is best for you.
It means that you are never anxious why the love of your life has not showed up at your doorstep, or why you have been going out and yet you haven’t met anyone suitable. It means being relaxed, totally convinced, and ready that the love you want is on its way.
Be happy
Nothing is more turning off to a man than a woman who constantly sulks and whines. When a man sees you, he forms a perception of you and how his life with you would be. If you are unhappy with your life, work on the issues that make you unhappy. Men are drawn to women who are enjoying themselves.
Get out of an unsatisfying relationship
You are in an unsatisfying relationship when you are with someone whom you know is wrong for you. Some women stay in this kind of relationship because they believe it is better than nothing, or it is a transition relationship until the right one comes along.
If you are in this situation, get out. An unsatisfying relationship is very depressing. Worse, it gives you an unattractive aura. It can also turn off a prospective Mr. Right when you are constantly seen hanging around with the wrong person.
| 
