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Create the love you want
Have you ever resolved to start a new life only to find the same situation following you?
Same impossible boss. Same scheming co-workers. Same unhappy relationship. Same uncaring, insensitive boyfriend. Can the same people be following you?
There is an old story of a gatekeeper of a town who was approached by a traveler looking for a new place to settle in. The traveler said to the gatekeeper, ”I am thinking of moving to your town“. The gatekeeper replied, ”How was your old town?“ The traveler said, ”Oh, it's disgusting. The people are rude and unfriendly“. The gatekeeper said, ” It is amazing but those are the exact words I would use to describe the people here. It would be better to look for another place“. So the traveler went on.
A second traveler approached the gatekeeper. He also wanted to move to a new town. The gatekeeper asked, ”How was your old town?“ ”Oh, the people are great. They are kind, generous and friendly“, replied the traveler. The gatekeeper said, ”That is amazing. Those are the same words I would use to describe the people here. Please come in and stay with us for a while“.
Wherever you go, you take yourself with you
The gatekeeper knew, ” Wherever you go, you take yourself with you“
If certain scenarios keep showing up in your life it may be time to examine yourself. Remember, in all of these scenarios, there is one common ingredient: you. So you are not stuck in the scenarios, you are stuck with you!
If you think your life is not the kind of life you deserve, if you think the relationship that you have is not the kind that you want to have, if you think that the man you are with now is not the person you should be with, it may be time to examine yourself. Examine closely the role that you play in your life and your relationships that cause these scenes to be repeatedly played out.
The ancient Greeks advocated, ”Know thyself“. Truly, this adage is as useful now as it was in those times.
Can you imagine how truly different your life would be if you take time out as often as you can to examine yourself. At the end of the day, ask yourself some simple questions.
How did I spend my time today?
Was I a positive person today?
Did I bring cheer to the people I encountered today?
Did I treat the people around me fairly?
Did I show love to my man today?
The answers that you give will give you a deeper awareness of yourself and of others.
Most of us spend a lot of time examining other people’s lives and situations – but rarely pause to ponder our own. If we find ourselves in a bad relationship, we rarely stop and say, ”What role have I played to make this happen?“ Instead, we spend a great deal of our time, and our friends’ time figuring the other person’s role.
A long time ago, I read an article that said the world is your mirror; your life is a reflection of yourself. If you want the mirror to reflect the kind of life and love that you feel you deserve, you have to work on yourself.
And as you do that, it is important to remember that wherever you go, you take yourself with you. Whichever relationship you get yourself into, you take yourself with you.
The road to good love
I have heard not a few women say that they have given up on love. They have no luck in love and that the only men they seem to encounter are insensitive, lying, cheating bastards. And to worsen things, the chances of them meeting another insensitive, lying, cheating bastard is 99%.
Do you share these thoughts?
Have you ever wondered why other women (whom you think are not as attractive, smart and interesting as you) are blessed with wonderful relationships and you have been denied?
Do you have this fear that your next relationship will turn out to be as bad as the last and it will just be a cycle of one bad love after another.
If someone tells you that you have denied good love to yourself, that you yourself created this cycle of bad love yourself, what would you say?
I think you would say, ” Of course not. Why would I want to be in a bad relationship? I want to be with a good man in a good relationship.“
Do you, really?
Your thoughts can create a new reality
A guru once said, ”Man is what he thinks about all day long“.
How true. When you constantly think that your life is a struggle, you experience more struggles. When you focus on how depressed you are, you feel even more depressed. When you think that your relationship is going nowhere the more it seems to lose direction.
Your thoughts are extremely powerful. Every thought is a biochemical impulse. It is energy. The strongest thoughts create the strongest impressions in our mental atmosphere. By having the same thoughts over and over, they produce a groove in our psyche. The energy of our thoughts design our attitudes and those same thoughts attract the conditions and situations that we have been constantly thinking about.
Your thoughts can create just as it can change things. Your conscious mind makes a decision on what it wants. You attach an emotion to it and if you keep focus on your thoughts, your subconscious mind molds the Energy around you into the shape that you want.
So if your thoughts are full of negativity, that’s exactly what you will get. If you constantly think that your relationship never works, it will never work. Or if you desire for your relationship to work but you have this constant fear that it might not, you will get the same result. It will never work.
Fear is something that you have to constantly guard against. Fear is simply belief that what you want won’t happen. This becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. When you focus your mind on what you don’t want, you are impressing your mind with that very thing. Your subconscious mind sees what you are focused on, what you feel very strongly about and delivers it to you. Your inner mind cannot reason. It does not realize that it has given you what you do not want. It just created what you were envisioning with your conscious thoughts.
How do you make the power of your thoughts create the kind of love that you want?
First of all, it is important to have a child-like belief that the Universe wants you to have a happy, satisfying life. It gives you whatever you ask for. You just have to state to the Universe that you want it.
With your conscious mind, focus on what you want, your new decision, your new choice. If you have fears that it will not happen, do not worry. This is normal. With constant practice and perseverance, you can get the fear and negativity out of your mind.
You want a happy, loving, fulfilling relationship? Fill your mind with these thoughts. Feel yourself having it. Whenever you find yourself negating it, consciously substitute it with your new choice. Then trust your subconscious to mold the Energy to give you what you want. By giving your subconscious the direction and having enough faith to let go, you give it the power to manifest what you want.
This does not mean you just sit around in your home waiting for good love to come by. You have to do all you can to prepare for it. Go out. Circulate. See and be seen. The only difference now is that your negative thoughts and fears that you’ll never meet the right person is gone. It has been replaced with a positive thought that you will get only good love. And you believe that your creative mind is doing its own work.
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