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He asks for your credit card number
Once someone has gained your trust, divulging your credit card number may not be difficult. No matter what the other person’s story is, never disclose your credit card number. Anyone who asks for this information is 99% fraudster.
He is inconsistent with his stories
Consistency is one of the tests for truthfulness. Take note of the stories he tells. Take note of the dates, the places, the names. If he is inconsistent, he just might be making the stories up.
He has no intention of meeting in person, ever.
If you have been corresponding for months and he does not suggest meeting you in person, your e-man may just be living a fantasy and wouldn’t risk ruining it by meeting you in person. If he is from overseas, meeting may take a longer time because of the time, effort and financial resources involved. But if you are getting really serious, meeting face to face should be part of the agenda.
He is thinking of quitting his job
If he says he is thinking of quitting, he probably doesn’t have a job in the first place or he had just been fired. There is nothing wrong with this as it is, if he plans to look for a job or has mapped out alternative plans. But if this is a prelude to asking for financial assistance from you until he gets things ”organized“, run!
He falls in love with you too soon
Online intimacy has a unique way of making you fall in love quickly. But if he is in love with you after 2 emails, something is wrong somewhere. He may just be pulling your leg and is up to something more, like eventually asking for money. Or he is a first rate loser who has not had a girlfriend. Either way, you don’t want to be this guy’s girl.
He initiates sex-talk too soon
Online romance inevitably gets sexual after some time. But ideally, this should happen with mutual consent, at a time when both of you are already comfortable moving up to the next level of intimacy. But if he moves too quickly and it makes you uncomfortable, ask him to stop. If he respects you and values your relationship, he will do so.
He is very interested in your financial affairs
It is normal to ask you about your job, your car, your house, your investments – in general terms. But if he insists on details and press on consistently, beware! He may be up to something sinister.
He doesn’t mail you regularly
If you are just having fun and not taking your e-mail partner seriously, occasional e-mail is fine. However, if your relationship has progressed to a higher level and you have both agreed that you have a relationship, you should expect him to e-mail you regularly. An online relationship subsists only on communication and if your e-mails are sporadic, you can’t claim to have a real on-line relationship. If you find yourself always checking your mails and wondering why he doesn’t mail you as much as you expect, ask him. He could have a real relationship or he has more than one online relationship and you are just one of them.
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