How to find good love

Scene 5. She always thought of herself as an attractive woman. After all, a lot of people have complimented her for her looks. That is why she has chosen an equally attractive man for her mate. Problem is, other girls also find him attractive (at least, that is what she thinks!). She attends a party with him and she hisses at all the women who dare look at him. When his phone rings, she sits by his side to listen in. She wants to listen to his answering machine messages. She wants to see his calendar to check his activities. She demands that she calls her every now and then to inform her of the ”what, where, why, with whom“ of his day. She checks his clothes to see if there are suspicious marks. She calls his friends, colleagues, and family to verify his stories and to fish for information. She insists that he burn all pictures and gifts from his exes, but not until after she has called them fat, ugly, cheap sluts. There’s one thing that’s bothering her, though. She can’t find a hacker who can give her his password so she can run through his e-mails.

I did not bother to write the endings. You must have an idea how the stories ended.

Scenes from your favorite soap opera?

No. Real life scenes from the lives of women we see, meet, and talk to everyday.

Our heroines are in love, all right. But are they happy?

How many women do you know completely lose their sanity, their self-worth, their self-control when they fall in love? How many women do you know are in miserable, unhappy, abusive relationships and yet refuse to get out? How many women have you seen give up their friends, their families even, change themselves just to please the men in their lives?

How many women out there ruin their careers, give up opportunities just to be with men who don’t deserve them?

This kind of love happens all the time. You are in love but you are not happy. It’s called bad love.

Bad love happens to the best of us. We know the pains and the sorrows it brings and yet we continually fall for it. It’s like it is almost addictive. Once you are in, you can’t get out.

Reasons?

I can’t leave him. I love him too much.

I can’t go on living without him.

This is better than nothing.

I am afraid I might not find someone else.

I have nowhere to go.

I have already invested so much time, effort and tears. I can’t give up now.

I am sure things will change. There will be better days.

It’s not always bad. Sometimes, I am happy.

Sometimes, you are happy? What about the rest of the time?

No prize for guessing the correct answer.

If you can be happy sometimes, you can be happy all the time. Or at least, most of the time.