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The morning after
The first step to moving on is to recognize and be aware of the myriad of emotions that you will experience the morning after.
Grief – You wake up with a very heavy heart. You realize that heartache is a literal word. You feel a physical pain in your heart. The hurt intensifies when you realize that you have just broken up. With your grief, you also lose your appetite, you become listless, more irritable and much more sensitive.
Denial – You can’t believe that the relationship is over,
Fear – You are frightened that you might not find another love again.
Self-blame – You blame yourself for the end of the relationship. You keep on replaying the events and berating yourself for what you think were your faults. You find yourself saying, ”If only I…“
Guilt – This normally happens when you ended a previously good relationship. You feel you have hurt someone undeservedly.
Hope – You fantasize having reconciliation. You set up events in your mind (which you sometimes carry out) that would give you the opportunity to get back to each other.
Disoriented – Your familiar world has been shattered. Suddenly you don’t have anyone to talk to in the evenings. You don’t have a constant date anymore. Your weekends are suddenly free.
Rejected – When you are the one broken up with, your self-esteem is shattered. You feel inadequate and you start to question your desirability.
Relief – You feel relieved if the relationship has been making you unhappy. Release from an unsatisfying relationship can be emancipating.
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