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Relationships do end. It is a fact that those of us who cried for nights to mourn the death of a relationship know only too well.
After you have recovered from a break-up, how many times have you looked back and almost kicked yourself why you made yourself so small, so undignified in the eyes of your ex-man, and worse, maybe other people with your ungraceful exit?
You cringe at the remembrance of your screaming, crying hysterically, cursing, pouncing, and begging when you could have left with your pride, dignity and your self-respect intact.
Whether you are breaking up or being broken up with, the key word to remember is grace.
And the key to a graceful exit is to be aware that you are going to make a graceful exit when the time comes. No one prays for this time to come, but when it comes, you know how you are going to end it – because you have already prepared yourself mentally for it.
The end is near
If you read the last chapter, you know that relationships don’t fall apart overnight. There are warning signs that the tension is rising and that your relationship is on the rocks. Be aware of the warning signals. If you wish to keep the relationship, do something about it. If you think it is not work keeping, you know what to do.
Note: This is written from a ”her perspective“, although women may be giving the same signs as well.
You have less contact
You find that you are spending less time together: by choice. Less and shorter phone calls, no more sweet-nothing mails and presents. Your discussions become less intimate, more general and almost acquaintance-like.
He starts having secrets
He starts to have secrets from you. He doesn’t tell you where is going or whom he has been with. He starts whispering when he talks on the phone. He often tells the other party that he will call him/her back.
His moods change
He used to be patient with you, now he gets irritated easily. The things that he used to find cute, now he finds stupid and irritating.
He becomes distant
He appears to be distant, often distracted. You find him daydreaming even if you are together.
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