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Keeping yourself happy, too
Believe that you deserve the good love that you’re getting
If you win 1 million dollars in a lottery, your most likely reaction would be, ”Gosh, I can’t believe it!“ When you finally get the job or promotion that you have been eyeing, your reaction would probably be the same disbelief, except perhaps milder. If you have had bad loves in the past and suddenly good love comes along, you might be tempted to say the same thing. When the man of your life showers you with all the love, attention and affection and you are not used to it, you may feel overwhelmed. Your love system might suffer a shock and react in disbelief. A friend of mine who has had a series of bad loves met a man who treated her like a princess. As she was relaying the story, she kept on saying, ”I can’t believe it! This guy is just absolutely wonderful“. Why can’t she believe it when it is happening to her now?
The ”I can’t believe it!“ reaction is a reflection of what you feel you deserve in your life. Why is it that when something bad happens we are so quick to say, ”I knew it was going to happen. I could feel it“? Does this mean that we are actually anticipating something bad to happen? Or we are not prepared for the good that happens.
When a man shows his love to you and your relationship seems to be perfect, accept it and rejoice in the satisfaction that this brings. Don’t think, ”this is too good to be true“. It is too good and it is true. Believe that what you are enjoying now is something that you rightfully deserve. By saying, ”I don’t believe it!“ you are actually negating the positive love energies that come your way. You are expressing your doubts to the Universe as to your worthiness to receive good love.
The danger in having an ”I can’t believe it“ attitude towards good love is that it might affect the way you conduct your relationship. When you react with disbelief, you are actually saying that you are getting something that you do not really deserve. And when you are overcome with this feeling, you might resort to over giving. You might over-give your love, attention, time, and resources to be able to show that you reciprocate your man’s love for you, to show that you really deserve the love that you are giving. As you should know by now, over-giving is like over-watering a plant. It is never healthy and can only result in premature death of the plant. And in the case of over-given love, premature death-by-overwhelm.
Accept that you are loved and that you deserve nothing less. No one should ever feel guilty that she is the object of too much love and affection. Instead of saying, ”I don’t believe it!“ start saying. ”I deserve it!“
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